This is NOT how I was in my 20s. That lead me to a hit or miss singles life, to a bad marriage and a really bad divorce. After I got dumped VERY hard by the rebound girlfriend, I decided I needed to just focus on myself.

I spent time getting comfortable in my own skin and with my life and not on trying to "score." I had great fun and did my thing. If I had a girlfriend or not, I was happy. In that mode I met a girl. I had no agenda. I tried no "tricks" to get a seriously hot girl much younger than me into bed. We just hung out one time after an outing with mutual friends and it clicked. We've been together ever since.