There is an incredible Bill Burr bit on "No Means No" that underscores how hard it is to judge nuance in what people (men and women) want in the "heat of the moment" compared to the morning or days after.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZ3QHTpMZgQ

Mike Tyson went to prison for rape. Mike had a shitty lawyer. Turns out the same girl did the same thing to another guy prior to Mike. That guy wasn't rich and famous, so he didn't go to prison. The girl's father was (is?) super strict and religious, and when it came out that his little angel had sex before marriage, she had to claim that she'd been raped. All documented in Mike's excellent autobiography.