Sorry for what you’ve gone through. Seriously. But that is not on me.

I didn’t have hurt feelings.

Don’t put words in my fingers. Your statement that “the worst that you [I] can imagine to receive from a woman is a threat to your financial assets — and her being sexually active with other men than you [me]” is both wrong and insulting. I made an example of a click-bait title I could have posted.

You have no idea what I’ve been through in my life. I can imagine being physically assaulted by a woman, because it has happened. I can imagine being attacked with a knife by an older female while I was an unarmed tween, because it actually happened. I’ve been lied about in court by a woman. I’ve been accused of a crime I didn’t commit by a woman. And still I think women are great and vast majority of them are wonderful. And still I understand that across human history to the present women have had it worse than men almost always worse than men. I can have had really shitty women in my past and still say — “It’s not all women.” That was my point.

I didn’t tell you to stop complaining. Again you put words in my fingers.

What is this about telling my buddy and his son? That is not from me.

I wasn’t even arguing with the OP. I just made the point that all men aren’t bad. Even with my experiences — and as I wrote — the vast majority of women in my life have been wonderful.

I will choose how to be constructive based on my own criteria, thank you very little. My wife and I have raised a son who respects women (as far as I can know). He helps care for his grandmother among other fine character traits regarding women.

I choose to do my part by being an example to my friends and family, and only keeping friends and family who share the same values. That includes not keeping relationships with men who treat women poorly, and not keeping relationships with women who treat men poorly. In both cases that includes family members. So on just that front I’m doing better than the Royal family in England and most of the families I know. My circle of friends and family is small as a result.

I feel if I leave the world a better place than when I arrived, I’ve done my part. I certainly have made my share of mistakes, but I’ve also atoned for them and moved the scales in the other direction. If that isn’t enough for you, then too fucking bad. The world is a shitty paternalistic dump, but it was that way when I arrived. It isn’t my responsiblity to fix the whole thing by myself. I was born into it just like everyone else.