My wife and I have been together for more than 20 years. We did split after a couple of years, but that is a very long story for another day. We got back together after some months apart.

Our sex life has been great, and still is great. We had some awesome sex yesterday. Albeit we have to deal with our new "child" (our young rescue husky of semi-indeterminate age).

I'm commenting because although my wife and I both love sex, and fortunately, love sex with each other, there are times when we've definitely gone weeks, probably over a month without sex, due to a multiplicity of issues coming together at once.

We get through it by being cognizant that life is a marathon, not a sprint. Hand holding, a kind word at the end of stressful day when one is grumpy, and just listening to your partner open up are all forms of intimacy.

I love "bumping uglies." It is probably my favorite activity. Really good sex in a long-term relationship requires a lot of openness and trust. That comes from first having a really open and trusting relationship out of the sheets.