My wedding did not go so well as yours. Not by a long shot. It is a long story. Your point about being a hardass when setting bounderies is the key, which I also didn’t know at the time.

The second time my wife and I got married (as I said, long story), it was just the two of us. We didn’t elope. We just didn’t invite anyone, even people we love and are sure wouldn’t have fucked things up. The one person we really went back and forth on inviting told me afterwards, “Of course I would have loved to have been there, but I totally understand why you wanted to be alone.” It was a perfect day.