My motto regarding other people’s marriages is: Only the two people in the marriage really know what the relationship is like, and if you asked them both to describe it, you’ll get two different answers. This is doubly true when the marriage ends in divorce.

I’ve watched many friends and acquaintances get divorced, or not. I got divorced myself and I’m currently very happily married. One thing I’ve learned not to do in my not so short life is to judge why a marriage failed. It’s a shame when a relationship doesn’t work out for whatever reason(s). I hate seeing someone unhappy in their marriage, but very, very rarely do you get a balanced look at the relationship — i.e. you know Scott’s wife as well as you know Scott. Judging in that situation alone is guaranteed to be wrong.

All that being said, cheating is just bad. If you’re really unhappy in your marriage, and your significant other expects you to be monogamous, then grow a pair and get a divorce. Then you’re being fair to whomever you start chatting up, as well as your kids if you have any.

The rest of this, “He shouldn’t have done this” and “She couldn’t have done that” is pure speculation based upon your own prejudices.