I've followed this subject off and on for years. I think it is good of you to remind people that Depp is also an abuser. You are wrong about a couple of things.

Amber Heard did not have to attack Depp. She chose to do that. Heard is not a broke mother with no options but to stay. She was not in a decades-long relationship that started small and suddenly went bad.

I was in an abusive relationship. I thought all kinds of horrible things about my ex-wife. I'm not so stupid as Depp to put them in writing and send them to someone. I'm also not a drug abuser, which might have something to do with that judgement call.

I could have punched my ex-wife. I could have slapped her, knocked her down, shit on her bed, called her names. I didn't. I left. Exactly like very wealthy Amber Heard could have done. But she didn't. She abused Depp. They abused each other.

Heard and Depp are both very damaged people. Heard tried to ruin the career of the Depp. So she is down one rung from Depp on my ladder of sympathy. Heard mostly succeeded. To my mind the US trial is the other side of the UK trial. Now both of them are exposed as the abusers they are.

Did you actually watch the video you linked to, where Depp was slamming cabinets? The entire video was a set-up. Heard placed the camera surrepticiously, even tried to hide it when Depp cam near, and then tried to goad (IMO) Depp to reacting badly towards her, which he didn't. I don't know if your statement is true that such activity is "something aggressive enough for a domestic violence charge in other US states." That sounds rather far-fetched to me, and you don't provide a link.

That video shows the difference between Depp and Heard. She chose to stay and try to provoke Depp while recording so that she could sue his ass. What did we see in the video? We saw Depp walk away without touching her, and Heard follow him laughing. Heard's actions there are the actions of a manipulative abuser, not of someone being abused. Again, Heard could have just left their house, left him, if she felt she was in danger. She didn't. She tried to record him doing something that would look bad on film.

If that is the best link you could find for showing Depp as an "abuser" then you shouldn't be surprised that most people in the US are taking Depp's side. Read ANY of the comments to that video.