Hey new friend! I wish you luck. I’ve gone through multiple iterations of learning to be honest: with myself, then my wife, then my family, then my friends. Actually each round starts with being honest with myself. Each iteration was painful but I came out better on the other side — with fewer people in my life at least in the short term. I just wish I hadn’t needed so many years to get where I am now!!!

I think this is a life-long process. I’m hoping the most painful iterations are behind me.

I was very lucky that I had the finances to fight that first fight. I was even luckier to meet a woman a few years later who is not only brutally honest but also was willing to stick with me through the years of legal and emotional turmoil. I hope you find someone as well — or not if what you want is to be alone!